Father’s Day will be here before you know it, and we’ve put together a collection of great gifts for the father figure in your life. Is he a lover of the wild? A bibliophile? A foodie? Whatever his interests, we have something sure to make dad happy.
Father’s Day is Sunday and in honor of all the Dads, Stepdads and Father figures in this great big world, we sat down with Anna and Layla Eby to talk about their dad, Alex. Alex is a teacher here in Bozeman and a guy that the Architect’s Wife has a great deal of respect for. When you hang out with Alex and his girls the love he has for them is on full display. He’s the fun dad who makes an effort to keep his daughters laughing and remind them not to take life too seriously. Read on to find out what makes this guy so special in his daughter’s eyes and find out how parenting teens is challenging him to prepare his girls for independence.
Layla, age 12:
What is your favorite thing to do with your dad? I love going Morel hunting with my dad because it is around his birthday and it is a fun present to give him.
What do you love most about your dad? I love my dad’s sense of humor. I like it because he makes everyday things that aren’t normally funny, funny.
What is the dorkiest things he’s ever done? He kisses me in public and yells to people he doesn’t know.
If you could give your dad an award what would it be? He gets the weirdest weirdo ever award. If you don’t believe me ask his students.
What is your dad’s favorite band/musician? He loves Bob Marley.
From Anna, age 15:
What is your favorite thing to do with your dad? My favorite thing to do with my dad is to travel. He is so adventurous and spontaneous and we can always find something fun to do.
What do you love most about your dad? He loves to make people laugh, and no matter what the occasion, he has the perfect costume to wear, whether it’s a funny ski costume or his christmas reindeer suit. He’s also super playful and is never shy.
What is the dorkiest things he’s ever done? He has this really awful all natural sunscreen that makes his face look super oily and greasy and he will cover his whole face with it. Sometimes he even puts it on his lips if it’s super sunny and it makes his lips look green. Once he did that and also tied a bandana around his head [so he looked] like a pilgrim girl, I guess that was pretty dorky. He also is a math teacher for 6th graders, so that, by itself, is pretty dorky too.
If you could give your dad an award what would it be? Best party thrower. My dad throws a pretty good party, with lots of drinks, games, and funny costumes. He goes all out. He’s also pretty talkative, so he could win an award for that. He’s definitely an extrovert.
What is your dad’s favorite band/musician? He likes all sorts of music, it really depends on his mood, the time of day etc. In the mornings he likes to play Bob Marley and Ray Lamontagne. For parties he loves 80’s dance music. He also has a record player so we have some old Jazz albums that we sometimes play at dinner, and other albums on vinyl.
It didn’t feel right to complete this piece without some input from Alex, so I asked him how parenting has changed for him over the years, especially now that he is the father of two teenage girls.
Alex: One of the greatest emotions associated with this stage of fatherhood comes from watching my children do things their own way. Early on, I was focused on showing them my way, the right way. I have changed as they have matured. It is a challenge, but when I’m able to relax and appreciate their style, their perspective, their strengths and weaknesses, then I’m filled with pride and wonder and reassurance. I guess that the trick is letting a situation or an opportunity play out. I have to bite my tongue. But isn’t this what we want as parents? We want our children to turn into humans that can think and choose and initiate and persevere, without us.
With that, we wish all the good men out there who have a special place in our hearts a Happy Father’s Day. Thank you for supporting us and cheering us on and preparing us for this world which can feel pretty uncertain at times.
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